WHAT SHAPED YOU? When asked the question, What shaped you? I get the idea of a formless mind. This idea takes me back to my childhood. As children our minds were limited and our perspectives were not yet pinpointed. We were formless. We didn’t have certain fears and insecurities, we were not influenced by trends and man made philosophy, we were completely organic. In other words, we were not mentally tampered with. We made friends with those who we could care less about today, we liked people without being judgemental and biased. Looking at the way you evolved did things change for the worst or for the better? It’s no one’s responsibility to answer this for you.
Our journeys are together but yet separate. Though we may go through similar things, we all may be affected by it in different ways, which validates my statement , “together but separate. Has this effect caused you to see the world? And did these effects help shape your perspectives. Entering into our teenage years and adolescence , we began to explore these new outlooks and perspectives. We also began to feel the impact of leaving our formless minds. Tryin to breakthrough to another chapter of life could be a challenge in getting used to. Changing from a formless mind and having to adapt into a forming mind this may have seemed to be our most memorable times. It was exciting but yet difficult. This is also the year where we were the most vulnerable. Determined upon how each event affected us, will shape the way we perceive life and the measure of confidence that we will have in ourselves, our situations, other individuals, relationships and even down to our self worth and value. After examining all of these we will then see that these encounters have also influenced what we call ‘Character. Character could be defined as an outward projection of our morals, reasonings,emotions and logic.
I would even go as far as questioning if this could possibly be tied to our reality? Do we all share the same reality? What makes reality real in the first place? The core word in realities is the term “REAL”. Also, the word realities is a plural term denoting more than one. Reality is all based upon your own perception of what you deem is real about your journey in life, from the things you see, hear, smell, touch and taste. Each one’s reality is pretty much subjective. From the state of our formless minds to evolving into formation due to events and encounters with other individuals playing a part in shaping our perspectives, perceptions and realities, it leaves us to ask the questions “ did we have any say so in our outlook on life? Or was this new outlook forced on us by our good and bad experiences? This is truly the battle that we all face within. Trying to gain control and change our mental views to suit the lifestyle that we want to manifest and live.
Believe it or not, our actions are influenced by our views and this combination plays a huge role in our outcomes. The way we think about ourselves and the world around us could literally dictate the way we live. My version of life in a nutshell is “ make the best decisions so you can make the right moves so you can stay on course and not lose focus. I came to the conclusion that life is a blended mixture of our emotions and our logic. Wisdom is needed to rightly judge what situation deserves our emotional side or our logical side. I found that it takes more logic to solve the biggest problems in life. Think your way out of it. When I became an adult I realized that all of the fear, insecurities and doubts that i had all stemmed from everything I’ve gone through in my younger years. This shaped me. I Knew i needed to fix this. There were things I wanted to accomplish, people I wanted to meet, and to top it off there was a particular lifestyle I wanted to live. But, the issues from my past wouldn’t allow me to take the leap I needed to materialize my dreams. This became a big problem for me. I knew if this is something I really wanted I had to take my power back. I had to become fearless, I knew exactly what it would take. I had to find closure within myself. I had to let things go that had ties to me still. I cut off all negative influences that I allowed into my world. This is called “taking ownership”. My solution to this problem was taking 2 years off of all social media outlets.
I took all of the energy back that I was giving to other things and used it for my own healing and to fight one of the most difficult battles I’ve ever faced. That battle was against myself. I needed to gain control over my mind. This showed me how easy it is to become your own worst enemy. If you’re not at peace with yourself you will not have peace with anything and this can cause a chaotic world for yourself. Hating the functions of your own mind, routines,habits and views could put you in a very dark place.
I remember looking in the mirror and realizing that i was a complete stranger to myself because i was aware that i was the creator of my own self, my past was, that’s what shaped me. One thing that I was sure of was my strength and potential. I knew I possessed great power and that’s what I needed to make the change. Why do we have to go through all of this just to want a better life? How is it possible that we have to fight against our own selves. It’s easy to change clothes, a pair of shoes, homes and even diets. But, when it came to changing my mentality it seemed damn near impossible. I was determined and I had a strong will. The life I wanted to live was embedded into my heart and mind, so much so, I could taste it. I had to have it. I had to have the job I wanted, I had to meet the woman I deserved, I had to become a motivator and I needed to find the peace I have within because life was exhausting. More importantly I had to become a better father for my son Jayce. Here is the silent truth, there were things in my mind that were undetected. Depression,stress,anxiety and all kinds of discomforts. We get so tied down with responsibilities and at the same time stretching thin that we don’t allow ourselves time to examine our issues so we can work through them. But I had victory over my demons. I was relentless.
I was victorious over the depression by eliminating all people and things that caused me to feel depressed and all things that gave me bad vibes. How did I know when I’ve defeated this? I stopped feeling the impact of this mental demon. I felt peaceful, happier and energized. This gave me a huge measurement of my power back to defeat the other mental demons that I had. I also felt a boost of confidence. Every mental demon I’ve defeated seemed to have unblocked all of the good qualities that I needed to succeed. I realized I’ve always had these qualities but my issues hid them from me in a dark place undetectable to a mind that’s cluttered with an endless amount of problems it seemed. I encourage you to never give up on yourself. Everything you need to live a peaceful and happy life lies within yourself. There’re many questions that we have and sometimes we could feel as though these questions aren’t being answered. I’ve found that sometimes there’s not an answer it just takes us to consider the decisions we’ve made because it all determines the outcome that we may have in our future. And other times we just have to understand the complexities of life. When there’s something I don’t quite understand I ask accountable questions. Accountable questions are simply questions we ask that make us the center of it so our question will give us the answers and the reasons, for example, what lesson did I have to learn from this situation that happened. An uncountable question is “ why me? or why did i have to experience this.As if we are exempt from life’s cycles.
Nothing that we go through in life is without a reason. There’s no such thing as a coinuencudent. Our blessings and our hard times are all customized for our own separate lives.events that take place are normally because of two reasons, One, simply because of the decision we make now that affects our future outcome and two, because of a divine purpose which too will be revealed. Sometimes it just takes time for the reason to be unveiled. Plan for your future but don’t think about it. The most important time to live in is your current moment. Your current moment is also when your future and dreams are being designed.
Life is magical. PUT SOME RESPECT ON IT!!